In our culture, we often find that people try their best to avoid discussing this topic out in the open. We sometimes think it’s taboo. Even inappropriate to discuss. The truth of the matter is, it’s a part of our lives.
It’s something that God originally created; it’s sacred and it is not a bad or nasty thing.
The school, the church, or even each family should be the safest environment to discuss about sex to give proper and right understanding to the children. Unfortunately, due to our Eastern mindset, we hardly discuss sex in these communities. A lot of parents, teachers, or even pastors feel uncomfortable discussing it.
As a result, teenagers try to find information about sex from wrong places: the media, television, and internet, which can be misleading and non-biblical.
Holding a session
Based on this observation, we held a session on Sex Education in Character Building class on Friday, March 6, 2015. We invited two guest speakers: Curtis Edwards and Sapna Edwards. They are husband and wife, and they both has years of experience working with teenagers.
Curtis comes from an island in Caribbean, where she met Sapna, an Indonesian-born Indian at a mission school. They have been living in Jakarta for around 4 – 5 years now. Curtis is serving as a Chaplain in a private school, and Sapna is a youth pastor at a church.
In this session, they tried to explain that sex is God’s idea He is the one who created sex in the beginning.
Everything God created is originally good
We believe that everything God created is originally good. God always intended sex to be something sacred, holy, and good. However, since sin enters this world, this purpose has been perverted. People fail to see the true purpose of sex, and therefore starts abusing it. This leads to a lot of problems, such as pre-marital sex, which results in sexually transmitted diseases (STD), pornography, masturbation, and so forth.
Those perversions are not biblical. All of them are against God’s will.
But, sex itself is not something sinful or dirty. Since it is God’s idea, He also puts sexual drive in all of us. This causes our attraction to opposite gender. During teenage years, this drive can be seen as something new and unusual, and sometimes teenagers don’t have any idea what to do with it.
Normal and natural
Is there something wrong? Should they or shouldn’t they feel this kind of drive? Curtis and Sapna explained that this is totally normal and natural, and we all have the ability to control them. Just because we have it, doesn’t mean that we need to have sex right away. We can control them and wait until marriage to have it at the right time and with the right person.
The session was then closed with Q&A session. Students were asked to write their questions in a piece of paper anonymously.
Even after the session, we can see that a lot of students still have many questions about this topic. This session is just the beginning the introduction to a lot of unanswered questions.
This could be a door for us to reveal biblical point of view about love, sex, and dating.
And hopefully, this will give the students a strong base to withstand false and misleading teachings about sex that has been bombarded by particular media nowadays.
by Anastasia Erina
(Senior High Character Building teacher)